Her Sex Secrets Revealed: How what you want in bed compares to what she thinks about sex

You no longer have to guess what women like in bed. With the help of Cosmopolitan magazine, we asked 6,000 men and women to tell us everything -- what they like, what they hate, what they've done, what they're dying to try. The results were as surprising -- men and women want sex equally often -- as they were enticing: Most women want to experiment and are just waiting for you to ask.

Here are the complete results of the survey, but you can also read What She Wants You to Do to Her to get even more sex tips.

Question	He said	She said
1. How often do you want sex?
Two or three times a week	34.8%	35.1%
Once a day	30	26.3
Several times a day	25.3	25.7
Once a week	3.81	6.3
Two or three times a month	3	3.7
Less than once a month	2.3	1.7
Once a month	.8	1.2
2. Do you wish your partner would
Inititate sex more often	66.3%	35.2%
Initiate sex less often	1.25	6.2
Respond to your advances more	14.7	16.3
None of the above	17.7	42.3
3. Which of the following is most likely to cause you to turn down sex with your partner?
I never turn down sex	53.7%	29.1%
I'm just not in the mood	19.2	25.7
I'm too stressed out	12.6	12.1
Partner is not very good	4	2.8
Need more time to warm up	3.52	15.6
Partner takes too long to orgasm	2.6	3
I need an emotional connection	1.8	7.8
Partner wants too much foreplay	1.4	.7
Partner wants too much sex	1.3	3.3
4. What time of the day are you most likely to be in the mood for sex?
Before I go to bed	33.9%	36.9%
In the morning, after I wake up	28.1	14.9
In the evening, after I get home	14.3	13.2
After dinner	8.6	10.3
In the middle of the night	5.7	10.8
In the afternoon, during work	3.5	6.1
In the morning, after breakfast	3	2.3
In the afternoon, at lunch	2.9	5.6
5. What sort of date is most likely to put you in the mood for sex?
A romantic dinner out	27.7%	23.4%
A quiet night at home	26.1	28.7
Dancing	14.6	25.4
An adventure date outdoors	10.1	5.2
Visiting a pub; Darts, pool	9.8	7.3
A formal event	7.4	4.1
A concert or comedy show	2.2	1.8
Going to a sporting event	1.6	2.8
Shopping	.6	1.4
6. When do you generally have sex with a new partner?
After the third date	7.9%	11.6%
After a month of dating	14	16.1
After the fourth or fifth date	13.6	11.4
After the second date	12.4	7.1
Only after marriage	9.1	4.4
After the first date	8.6	5.2
The same night we meet	7.8	3.4
After several months of dating	6.6	19.4
Once we've discussed exclusivity	6.3	17.2
Never, I practice abstinence	3.3	2.5
Only after he pops the question	.3	1.8

Go on to the next page to find out what's most likley to bring her to orgasm...

Question	He said	She said
7. a. Men: If I'm really interested, I want to have sex:
As soon as I get the okay	48.2%
When I'm ready, even if she is first	24
Wait until we are exclusive	21.3
Wait until a certain number of dates	6.5
7.b. Women: If I'm really interested, I want to have sex:
Wait until we're committed		40.4%
Few dates, so he won't think I'm a slut		37.6
Whenever I want, even on first date		21.9
8. a. Men: Which of the following is most likely to bring you to orgasm?
Vaginal sex	75.6%
Oral sex	17
Manual simulation--by me	4.1
Manual stimulation--by her	3.3
8.b. Women: Which of the following is most likely to bring you to orgasm?
Clitoral stimulation--by him		28.1%
Vaginal sex--with him		26.8
Oral sex		20.7
Clitoral simulation--by me		14.8
Clitoral stimulation--by a sex toy		8.1
9. Which of the following is most likely to prevent you from having an orgasm?
I never have any problem	47%	11.4%
I'm distracted	25.3	22.8
My partner doesn't know what to do	8.2	15.6
There's no emotional connection	8	6.8
My partner doesn't last long enough	6	19.4
Partner needs to ask what to do	3.4	6.9
It's difficult for me to orgasm	2.2	16.8
10. How much longer do you wish intercourse could last?
I'm satisfied with how long sex lasts	30.3%	38%
10 minutes	23.3	21
20 minutes	15.3	13.8
5 minutes	14.5	14.5
30 minutes	7.5	5.2
1 hour or more	5.9	4
45 minutes	2.4	1.8
1 minute	.9	1.7
11.Which body part of the opposite sex turns you on the most?
Butt	34.5%	7.8%
Chest	23.2	14.3
Face	14.1	19.8
Legs	9.9	1
Genitals	7.6	9.5
Abs	6.1	9.4
Arms		12.5
Shoulders		8.2
12. Which of your body parts do you think turns the opposite sex on the most?
Chest	15.6%	42%
Butt	13.5	27.7
Face	26.9	10.5
Shoulders	9.5	.7
Arms	9.3	.2
Legs	2.9	6.9
Abs	8.4	3.2
Genitals	7	5
13.a. Men: How would you describe your penis size?
About average	59.9%
About right	24.3
Small	8.1
Massive	7
Way too small	.8
13.b. Women: How would you describe the penis size of your most recent sexual partner?
About average		44.3%
About right		32.3
Massive		17.6
Small		5
Way too small		.9
14. In your opinion, the ideal length for an erect penis is:.
7 inches	38.3%	34.8%
6 inches	33.8	32.8
8 inches	17.9	14.9
5 inches	4.8	10.5
9 inches	3.3	2.6
10 inches or more	1.3	1.7
4 inches	.4	2.5
1-3 inches	.2	.2
15. In your opinion, the ideal girth for an erect penis is:
The diameter of a D battery	74%	64.3%
The diameter of a racquetball	16.5	27.8
The diameter of a quarter	8.1	5
The diameter of a soda can	.7	2
The diameter of a Sharpie marker	.6	1
16. Which of the following is most important for pleasing a woman?
Thrusting technique	37.7%	55.5%
Oral sex technique	30.4	19.7
Duration of intercourse	16.8	9.2
Penis girth	12.2	11.9
Penis length	2.9	3.6

Go on to the next page to find out which type of grooming women and men prefer down there...

Question	He said	She said
17. What sort of lingerie do your prefer?
Racy: The less fabric, the better	48.7%	46.3%
Elegant: Hints of raw flesh	47.3	51
Trashy: Zippers and pleather	4	2.7
18. What sort of pubic grooming have you done?
I'll do a little trimming,	33.5%	19.4%
The buzz cut--I prefer it short	32.8	21.8
Completely bald	15.5	35.6
None. I wouldn't touch a thing.	11.7	2.3
I'll shave or wax it into shapes	6.6	20.9
19. What sort of pubic grooming would you be willing to do, if asked by a partner?
Anything that turns her on	49.4%	38.3%
I'll do a little trimming	15	10.2
The buzz cut-I prefer it short	14.5	12.4
Completely bald	10.8	18.6
I'll shave or wax it into shapes	6.9	18
None. I wouldn't touch a thing.	3.4	2.7
20. What sort of pubic grooming do you prefer on your partner?
Completely bald	36.5%	11.9%
Shaved or wax it into shapes	32.3	2.1
A little trimming, but that's it.	13.8	47.4
The buzz cut--I prefer it short	13.5	25.7
None. I wouldn't touch a thing.	3.9	13
21. How many times a week do you masturbate?
2-3 times a week	37.2%	23.6%
Once a day	19.1	7.3
About once a week	16.6	16.6
2-3 times a month	11	17.6
Less than once a month	11	31.2
More than once a day	5.2	3.6
22. How many times a week do you think your partner masturbates?
Less than once a month	46.9%	10.4%
2-3 times a month	18	11.8
About once a week	17.9	18
2-3 times a week	13.3	32.7
Once a day	2.7	21.2
More than once a day	1.1	5.9
23. How many previous sexual partners is it okay for your partner to have had?
2-3	26.4%	26%
4-5	22.1	19.3
8-10	13.9	13
None	11.3	9
6-7	10.2	8.8
1	5.3	6.4
11-15	4.7	6.4
16-20	2.2	4.5
51 and above	1.7	2.8
24. How many sexual partners have you had?
2-3	18.9%	25.1%
4-5	14.7	14.6
1	12.8	24.1
8-10	10.7	7.8
6-7	9.1	6.6
11-15	8.8	5.3
16-20	5.8	2.6
None	5.3	8.2
21-25	4.2	1.9
51 and above	3.6	1.2
25. Do you think it's okay to ask how many sexual partners your partner has had?
Yes	69.5%	83.5%
No	30.5	16.4
26. Have you asked how many sexual partners your current partner has had?
Yes	58.2%	68.1%
No	41.8	31.9
27. Have you ever lied about how many partners you've had?
No	62.5%	68.4%
Yes -- Increased by 1 or 2	9.6	6.4
Yes -- Decreased by 1 or 2	7.24	13.1
Yes -- Decreased by 3-5	6.3	6.2
Yes -- Decreased by more than 10	6.1	2.7
Yes -- Increased by more than 10	.33	.10
28. Do you count oral sex partners, who you haven't had intercourse with, in your total number of sex partners?
No	62.7%	67.3%
Yes	37.3	32.7
29. When it comes to oral sex, I:
Give more. I want to even it out	35.9%	28.8%
Give more, and I like it that way	21.1	24.1
Receive more. I want to even it out	19.5	19.7
Receive more. I like it that way	14.1	21.1
Give more. I'd like the opposite	6.9	5.6
Receive more. I'd like the opposite	2.5	.7
30. Has your partner ever faked an orgasm?
No	59.7%	92.9%
Yes	40.3	7.1
31. Have you ever faked an orgasm?
No	71.8%	34.9%
Yes	28.3	65.1

Go on to the next page to find out what other guys think women do wrong in bed...

Question	He said	She said
32. What's the worst mistake your partner makes in bed?
Not communicating enough	43.9%	19.9%
Just laying there	34.8
Faking orgasm	9
Poor technique	8	12.5
Trying too hard to please me	3.2	9.9
Acting like we're in a porn movie	1.2	7
Rushing to intercourse		13.6
Not enough foreplay		34.2
Not trying hard enough		5
33. Men: What's the worst mistake women make during oral sex?
Her teeth get in the way	19.2%
She's not persistent enough	18.7
She should use her tongue more	12.6
She doesn't use her hand enough	11.4
She has bad rhythm	11.4
She's too rough	9.7
She ignores my testicles	8.6
She's too gentle	8.5
34. Women: What's the worst mistake men make during oral sex?
He's too rough		22.4%
He's not persistent enough		18.9
He doesn't know my anatomy		18.8
He's too gentle		14.9
He has bad rhythm		13.2
His beard irritates my skin		11.9
35. Do you fantasize?
Yes, but only during masturbation	43.3%	41%
Yes, during sex and masturbation	41.7	22.5
No	9.1	27.4
Yes, but only during sex	5.9	9.1
36. Who do you fantasize about?
A previous partner	25%	27.5%
A friend	22.7	19.2
A stranger	20.5	26.7
A celebrity	13.7	15.7
A porn star	10.7	6.8
A co-worker	7.5	4.1
37. Why do you fantasize?
Images just pop into my head	46.3%	35.1%
It helps me get turned on	43.7	58.4
I'm bored	6.5	4.5
Focus on something besides partner	3.6	2
38. Have you videotaped sex?
No	76.9%	81%
Yes	23.1	19
39. Used light bondage?
No	55.5%	58.7%
Yes	44.6	41.3
40. Used Role Playing?
No	68.7%	71.9%
Yes	31.3	28.1
41. Used toys?
Yes	51.3%	39%
No	48.5	61
42. Had a threesome?
No	90.6%	91%
Yes	9.5	8.8
43. Sex while watching porn?
Yes	57.3%	47.6%
No	42.7	52.4
44. Had anal sex?
No	57.8%	64.8%
Yes	42.2	35.3
45. Had sex in public?
No	53.5%	57.2%
Yes	46.6	42.8
46. Swinging/Swapping
No	95.7%	95.1%
Yes	4.3	4.9
47. Grooming and shaving each other?
No	52.5%	53.2%
Yes	47.5	46.8
48. Is your partner as sexually adventurous as you would like?
No	60.7%	30.7%
Yes	39.3	69.4
49. What can a partner do to convince you to experiment sexually?
Just ask--I'm game	78.6%	47.9%
Offer to let me do something kinky	10.9	9.4
Show how much she respects me	7.3	32.6
Swear that no one will know	2	8.1
Constant begging and pleading	1.2	2
50. I'm more likely to be sexually adventurous...
Always sexually adventurous	44.2%	19.3%
Later: After I've built trust with her	37.9	66
Early: Before things get serious	8.7	7
If it's a random stranger:	8.3	4.8
I'm not comfortable with that	1.4	3
51. Have you ever had a threesome?
No	81.6%	86%
Yes	18.4	14
52. Who else participated?
Two girls	50.3%	21.3%
One guy, One girl	25.5	49
I've been in both situations	24.3
Two guys		29.7
53. Were you in a relationship with any of the other participants?
No, and I never was	57.7%	48.6%
Yes. The relationship stayed strong	17.7	21
Yes. It failed, but not because of it	16.4	19.9
Yes. It failed because of it	4.3	4.6
No, but it evolved into a relationship	3.8	5.9
54. How'd it go?
I loved it, and would do it again	59.1%	36.7%
It was a good, one-time thing.	29.6	40.1
It was awful, but I'd try again	8.1	11.9
It was awful, I'd never try it again	3.3	11.2
55. If you have never been in a threesome, what would it take?
Random people	36.2%	18.8%
I'd never have a threesome	29.4	57.6
Secure relationship. 3rd party a friend	18.7	11.2
Secure relationship. 3rd party a stranger	15.7	12.4